Do you have a sisterhood?
It’s so nice to start writing again. I have a new way of connecting with what it is that would be healing for you to hear today and I absolutely love it.
It has been coming up in my awareness about friendships a lot lately. I have heard people talk about their friendships, I have seen people end friendships, it has come up in chats with my guides and teaching girls about what it means to be a good friend. I have seen women discount a friendship because they don’t have similar interests. I find this really sad because you are missing out on what could be a beautiful friendship.
I know that we have a lot of sisterhood wounds we are holding within us where we have been treated poorly and have had our hearts broken by friends. Especially in a time like now when it feels that we are divided in our views, perceptions and beliefs. If you bring love to any situation you don’t have to have the same views, perceptions and beliefs you can still love your friends anyway. It just might mean that you need to put in boundaries that you don’t talk about certain topics because it ends up in an argument and you value the friendship too much to let it be a deal breaker. On the flip side it might be a deal breaker and you may need to have different boundaries and lovingly let the friendship go.
I know that when women come together we are powerful. Yet we hold ourselves back from our own power, joy, connection and happiness. We busy ourselves in our businesses, kids and lives. If you are lucky enough to have beautiful, loving, close girlfriends, then you know how abundant it feels and how much it enriches and supports your life. Why would you deny yourself that?
What I really want to talk about is how often you don’t feel approved of. My two highest values are acceptance and belonging. I want everyone to feel acceptance and belonging. When we don’t accept ourselves or love ourselves it’s hard to allow anyone into your space and to let people love and accept you.
What is stopping you from approving of yourself?
What beliefs have you created around your own approval?
What experiences have you had that stops you from approving of and accepting who you are?
What parts of you do you need to heal so that you can fully love yourself?
I know that when you heal the parts of you that have stopped you from loving yourself you will start to love yourself. You will start to own your awesomeness. You will recognise the value that you can give to a friendship and you will start to own and value your worth.
You are worthy and deserving of love, belonging, acceptance and beautiful friendships that fill up your cup.
There are women that want to love on you, have deep and meaningful conversations, enjoy the outside world and soak up the beautiful energy of nature, that will nurture you when you feel down, provide nourishment when you don’t have the energy, to play with your kids when all you need is a nap. Yes, those women are out there. You just need to open your heart to them.
I have learnt that we need to be what we want to receive and that’s in all areas of your life. If you want to attract a good friend you need to be a good friend, if you want to attract an amazing partner then you need to be willing to give what you want to receive.
Do the healing, journalling, questioning, gain self-awareness so that you can clear the sisterhood wounds, the disapproval of yourself and the negative beliefs so you can build your self-esteem, self-worth and self-love so you can open your heart to new and amazing friendships and relationships.
You are so worthy and deserving of your desires.
I love you.
Michelle x
